Thursday, May 23, 2013
What I Learned from Life: Day 23 of Blog Every Day in May
We are on day 23 of Blog Every Day in May and today's prompt is things you've learned that school won't teach you.
Here's what I learned from the great teacher called LIFE:
Not all friendships last. A lot of friendships fade away. When I was in school, I thought I'd have my friends beside me as I went from one crossroad of life to another. Our husbands would be friends and our children would be friends. I was so wrong. That's not the way life works. As you go thru life's changes, you change and your friends change too. And sometimes these changes are so big that no matter how hard you try to keep in touch, there will come a point when you'd look into your friend's eyes and you'd realize you don't know her anymore.
The world can sometimes be a cruel place. There are bullies in school but no one ever told me they'd be in the workplace too! There are power struggles, intrigues, serious boot licking, etc. etc. The worst thing is, not everyone plays fair and you can't run to your mom every time you have a problem. You have to fight your own battles.
You cannot control everything. There is at least a sense of control when you are in school. If you want to have a good grade, a perfect score, you simply study hard and most of the time, you get it. Out in the real world, there are very few things you can control. There are a lot of factors that come into play -- your family life, your co-workers, subordinates, superiors, traffic, finances, and even strangers.
A college diploma does not guarantee a good life. Our teachers used to tell us that we had to study hard and finish college so that we could have a good life. I learned that a college diploma is not a guarantee. It is merely a passport to a world of opportunities. If you want the good life, you need a ticket. And that ticket is composed of different things such as hard work, perseverance, passion, commitment and courage. I remember teachers mentioning hard work and perseverance as essential values that one has to have but no one ever mentioned courage. I am learning the hard way that that is what I need. I have to dare to face my fears of failure, rejection and of many other things. I have to dare to be the best I can be. Otherwise, I'd just be like someone who dreams of travelling, gets a passport but is afraid to fly.
What about you? What has life taught you? Link up at Jenni's and tell us.